Silence in Grief

When one is engulfed in grief, the isolation is complete. The world continues moving in its usual course as if nothing has changed. There is noise around you, voices telling you "You have to move on!", " Maybe it is for the best." or "Get a grip of yourself!" But how come the silence cuts you off from everyone?

At the same time, you have got new tasks to handle and mouths to feed. You wish the world would just stop for a moment so that you can find your feet, to recalculate and to think!

This silence is almost deafening. You feel alone in your pain. You want to say something but the brokenness inside just cannot form the words . is there someone who can help you put some semblance of order in your life?

Often the silence in grief grows to an unhealthy level because the experience of grief is so misunderstood. Being in the presence of someone grieving is uncomfortable for many people precisely because we think it is not normal. If we understand what grief does to a person, the silence need not be borne by the griever alone. We can be the silent presence that comforts the griever, that wants to share the pain and hasten the healing.